What if in our conflicts with others we want something more than solutions? What if conflicts at home, conflicts at work, and conflicts in the world stem from the same root cause? And what if individually and collectively we systematically misunderstand that cause and unwittingly perpetuate the very problems we think we are trying to solve? These are the important questions explored in The Anatomy of Peace.

Like Arbinger's international bestseller Leadership and Self-Deception, The Anatomy of Peace helps us see how we actually cause the problems we think are caused by other people. We're trapped by preconceived ideas and self-justifying reactions that keep us from seeing the world clearly and dealing with it effectively. We see others not as they are but as projections of our beliefs about them. As a result, our efforts to make things better all too often make them worse. Leadership and Self-Deception applied these ideas to the workplace--The Anatomy of Peace expands on them and shows how they work in our lives and the world around us.

Through an intriguing story of parents who are struggling with their troubled children and with problems that have come to consume their lives, we learn from two once-bitter enemies the way to find peace whenever war is upon us. Yusuf al-Falah, an Arab, and Avi Rozen, a Jew, each lost his father at the hands of the other's ethnic cousins. The Anatomy of Peace is the story of how they came together, how they help warring parents and children to come together, and how we too can find our way out of the struggles that weigh us down.

The choice between peace and war is within each of us. As one of the characters in the book says, "A solution to the inner war solves the outer war as well." This moving book offers more than just hope--it offers a unique solution to the conflicts that cause so much pain in our lives and in the world.